From Thoughts to Matter
In my last blog post, I wrote a bit about my belief that what we think and believe can manifest, and I’d like to share a couple additional examples:
When I was a freshmen in college, I remember that I kept feeling like I was hurting people I was in relationships with. Not physically, but emotionally… like I wasn’t invested in the relationship like they were, or that I wasn’t showing up in some way that they wanted or needed me to…
After a couple of these, I remember walking from the cafeteria back to my dorm one night… I can remember walking down these brick steps… and I thought to myself, “I should know what it’s like to get hurt in a relationship.”
Whoosh! That thought went into the universe, and I didn’t recall having it for months… not until after it came true.
Towards the end of my freshman year, I met someone who I fell for a bit harder than they fell for me… and I got hurt.
I spent the summer between my freshman and sophomore year in Hong Kong (that’s another story), where I spent a lot of time thinking about what happened and building back up my self-esteem.
It wasn’t until sometime in my sophomore year, perhaps as I was walking down the same steps, that I recalled that thought I had and let go… and I was dumbstruck.
Did I create that hurtful experience? Did I actually make that happen in some way?
Just under a week ago, a friend of mine was attacked on the Berkeley Campus. His assailant waved a box cutter at him (but didn’t cut him, thankfully), and they both got a couple punches in.
This friend of mine has psychic training, too, and we were chatting afterwards about how he felt he may have created this experience for himself. That made me recall the story I shared above.
In both these scenarios, it took a lot of self-inspection and awareness to find the thoughts and patterns that led to trauma.
In doing so, we each found a way to reclaim control in our lives from an event that may have made us feel like victims otherwise.
Also, it is important to say that this exercise is in no way meant to place blame or shame those who are victims of trauma… it is merely meant to call out those events which we did have input and control over, but perhaps we did not know it at the time.
Looking back at where we may have shaped events that hurt us and owning what is ours to own can be a powerful healing… and forgiving ourselves for the hurt we caused is often the first step in learning to forgive others who have hurt us, too.